All in Family
The loss of a child can be devastating, incomprehensible, and if siblings are involved, can be extremely hard to navigate. Parents often wonder how they can show up for their children after the loss of a child.
This is not an easy subject to write or talk about, and yet it comes up a lot in my office. Teens engaging in self-harming behaviors happens far more often than many think. If you have concerns about your own child, it is a normal parent reaction to wish the behaviors away. Parent to parent, and as a professional, if you are concerned about your child, reaching out for help is strongly encouraged.
Last week on my podcast, I spoke with Amy Lang, MA. She has been a sexual health educator for over 25 years. Surprised by her discomfort with just the idea of talking with her young son about his body, she knew she needed help. Amy did a bunch of research to learn how to talk with kids about bodies and sexuality and realized she could help other parents with this important part of parenting. In 2006 she started Birds & Bees & Kids. With her lively, engaging, and down-to-earth style she helps parents become comfortable and confident talking with their kids. Amy’s books, online solutions center, and podcast called “Just Say This”, show parents they really can become their kids' go-to birds and bees source.
We all know that an empty pitcher cannot pour. On a very related note, there is a reason the emergency directions on an airplane include putting your own oxygen mask on first before putting the oxygen mask on your child.
Children who exhibit conduct or behavior problems, often acting angry, aggressive, resentful or spiteful, deliberately annoying, or blaming, either melting down or acting out, can challenge even the most patient parent. How do you deal with the behavior and shape and transform it?
Before we can dive into the application of sensory processing issues informed parenting, we need to understand more about the sensory system and how it relates to child behavior.
When kids are struggling and melting down, friends and bystanders often suggest that parents 'Get Bigger' to get their kids to behave. Yet, we know that kids from hard places or kids prone to meltdowns need a different approach. Here are two tips to help keep kids and adults regulated in tough situations.